Nature\u2019s Catch 22<\/a>\u2019. You only receive when your motivation for giving is genuine.<\/p>\nThis is because it is genuine kindness that creates the feelings of warmth, connection, or affection and it is these feelings that produce any physiological or even psychological effects. In a sense, you have to mean it to feel it, so you have to mean it to get the rewards. Which also means you need to not be looking for the rewards. This is why I call it Nature\u2019s Catch 22.<\/p>\n
Had I been giving water to the porters as a strategy<\/em> for boosting my own energy, I would likely have felt dehydrated and drained.<\/p>\nOf course, not all acts of kindness need be genuine. Helping another out of a sense of duty is still helping the person, even if you resent doing it. The downside for yourself is that if you resent it then you might feel stressed, which might not do you good in the long-term. There are times, therefore, when the best act of kindness, at least in terms of preserving your own health, is to say no.<\/p>\n
Kindness is sometimes easy. Sometimes it\u2019s not. There is no \u2018one size fits all\u2019. We each have our own lives, circumstances, relationships, environments and contexts. Sometimes things are complicated, sometimes they are simple. Kindness for one person might look very different to kindness for another.<\/p>\n
All I can say is that if we each do the best we can, then I think we can make life a little easier for ourselves, for others, for our societies, and even for our world.<\/p>\n
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