{"id":2491,"date":"2020-08-27T15:32:01","date_gmt":"2020-08-27T15:32:01","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/drdavidhamilton.com\/?p=2491"},"modified":"2021-07-22T09:59:57","modified_gmt":"2021-07-22T09:59:57","slug":"7-ways-to-develop-your-self-love","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/drdavidhamilton.com\/7-ways-to-develop-your-self-love\/","title":{"rendered":"7 ways to develop your self love"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\"><figure class=\"aligncenter size-medium\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"300\" height=\"300\" data-src=\"https:\/\/drdavidhamilton.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/heart-outline-purple-300x300.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-2588 lazyload\" data-srcset=\"https:\/\/drdavidhamilton.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/heart-outline-purple-300x300.jpg 300w, https:\/\/drdavidhamilton.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/heart-outline-purple.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/drdavidhamilton.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/heart-outline-purple-150x150.jpg 150w, https:\/\/drdavidhamilton.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/heart-outline-purple-768x768.jpg 768w, https:\/\/drdavidhamilton.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/heart-outline-purple-800x800.jpg 800w\" data-sizes=\"(max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" src=\"data:image\/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAAAAACH5BAEKAAEALAAAAAABAAEAAAICTAEAOw==\" style=\"--smush-placeholder-width: 300px; --smush-placeholder-aspect-ratio: 300\/300;\" \/><noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"300\" height=\"300\" src=\"https:\/\/drdavidhamilton.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/heart-outline-purple-300x300.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-2588\" srcset=\"https:\/\/drdavidhamilton.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/heart-outline-purple-300x300.jpg 300w, https:\/\/drdavidhamilton.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/heart-outline-purple.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/drdavidhamilton.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/heart-outline-purple-150x150.jpg 150w, https:\/\/drdavidhamilton.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/heart-outline-purple-768x768.jpg 768w, https:\/\/drdavidhamilton.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/heart-outline-purple-800x800.jpg 800w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/><\/noscript><figcaption>image: iStock photo<\/figcaption><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>1) Know it\u2019s OK to not be OK<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It\u2019s OK to not be OK, or have a bad day, or to fail at something. It happens to everyone. Failing at something doesn\u2019t mean you\u2019re a failure, only that you didn\u2019t manage to do something you intended. If you realise that it\u2019s OK to fail or to not be OK, that\u2019s a success!! Well done!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>2) Love thy selfie<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Say, \u201cI love you\u201d or \u201cI am enough\u201d every time you see your reflection in a mirror. Say it when you brush your teeth, do your makeup, dry your hair, and even when you catch your reflection in a shop window. Repetition like this will eventually wire the idea into your brain.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>3) Strike a \u201cPower\u201d Pose<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>You smile when you\u2019re happy and frown when you\u2019re stressed because the brain\u2019s emotional circuitry is connected to your muscles. But it\u2019s a 2-way street. Your feelings show up as smiles, frowns and muscle tensions, but how you choose to hold and move your body feeds back to the brain and&nbsp;<em>creates<\/em>&nbsp;the way you want to feel.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>So find a way of holding and moving your body that says, \u201cI\u2019ve got this\u201d or \u201cI have an inner sense of worthiness and value\u201d or something similar, and do it as often as you can remember to.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>4) Visualise your highest self<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Your brain doesn\u2019t distinguish real from imaginary. Frequently imagine yourself as your best self \u2013 with confidence and self love \u2013 speaking and interacting with people in the way you\u2019d like. Don\u2019t just imagine the end result though, but give important mental attention to the way you\u2019re holding and moving your body as you create the result.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>5) Celebrate your uniqueness<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Don\u2019t try to be like everyone else. Be like yourself, however you are. Conforming to an idea of what you think people want only feeds the thought that, \u2018I am not enough as I am\u2019. Make a decision to celebrate what it is about you that makes you You. As they say, \u2018Be Yourself. Everyone else is taken\u2019.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>6) Be kind to yourself<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Treat yourself with the same kindness and care that you show others. Treat yourself, take some time for yourself, practice saying \u2018No\u2019 (or at least, \u2018Not yet!\u2019) instead of always saying yes. Let your hair down once in a while. You deserve it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>7) Stretch out of your comfort zone<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The greatest gains in self love often lie just at the edge of our comfort zones. Knowing this actually makes it a little easier to stretch yourself because you know what the self love reward can be. Try not to be afraid of rejection or failure. 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