Lots of people use visualisation. The most popular way is to visualise what you want. Some people picture their ideal house, their ideal car, or a perfect partner who ticks all the boxes, for instance. The idea with this kind of visualisation is to picture what you want, the end result. It’s also useful to […]
self-love
Find yourself vs reveal yourself
It can be hard to be yourself. In fact, what does it actually mean? It can mean a lot of things to different people. We sometimes think we need to ‘find’ ourselves in order to ‘be’ ourselves. But finding yourself can actually feel stressful to some people because it conjures up the idea of a […]
The 4 Components of Emotion
Most of us think of emotion purely as a feeling. We might feel happy or sad, for instance, or love, joy, or grief. But there is much more to emotion than a feeling. Emotion is really smeared all over and all throughout the body. The diagram below shows how this is so. Let me explain. […]
The magic of vulnerability
I have found myself crying on stage a few times recently. One of these times was a couple of weeks ago in front of an audience of around 400 people at Hay House’s ‘I Can Do It! Ignite!’ conference in London. I was speaking about my latest book, ‘I Heart Me: The Science of Self-Love’ […]
Use your body to change how you feel
If you’ve read ‘I Heart Me’ recently you’ll be very familiar with Power Posing. It’s a simple way of using your posture to change how you feel. Research at Harvard University led by Amy Cuddy found that just a couple of minutes standing in a Power Pose, like Wonder Woman, (OK, if you’re a male […]
The Acceptance Paradox
Whatever you accept begins to change. That’s the acceptance paradox in a nutshell. I first started thinking about it after the first deadline for my self-love book. I’d worked on the book (and on myself) for about 8 months but I’d tried to write it in the same way I’d written my seven previous books. […]
Can loving-kindness slow down ageing?
You might have heard of telomeres! They’re the little end-caps on DNA that stops it unraveling, a bit like the little plastic caps on shoelaces that stop them from unraveling. Telomeres have become popular because they’re closely linked with the age of the body. Short telomeres tend to mean faster ageing. Lots of research has […]
10 Reasons Why Gratitude is Good for You
I think many people nowadays have heard that gratitude is good for us, but if you haven’t, or want a recap on how and why, here’s 10 reasons below. Please share them with others so that more people enjoy the benefits of gratitude. 1. It’s good for mental health Studies show that a regular […]
Moving from vulnerability to confidence
Many of us are afraid to be ourselves – to admit how we feel: that we get scared, that we feel insecure, that we are often consumed by self-doubt. As an author, the more books I wrote, the more I felt a pressure to maintain the expectations of people who read my books and came […]
Love the Skin You’re In
Part of self-love is loving yourself as you are. Nobody is perfect. We’re all human. We all make mistakes. It’s OK to be you, just as you are. As many of my readers know, I’m all about self-love this year. My new book (I Heart Me: The Science of Self-Love) is out in October. One section […]