How kindness can reduce wrinkles

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Yes, you read correctly!

Have you ever cut an apple in half and left it on the table? If so, you’ll have noticed it quickly goes brown. This is oxidation, or oxidative stress, as scientists prefer to call it.

Oxidation occurs in skin too, and it can be a side-effect of lifestyle, diet, stress, even sunlight. It doesn’t happen as quickly in our skin as it does in a sliced apple left on a table, so don’t worry, but it happens nevertheless. It’s caused by what are known as free radicals.

Here’s a simple way to think of free radicals. Think of what Harry Potter’s spectacles look like: two ‘O’s and a little bridge between them. His spectacles are actually the exact shape of oxygen, the stuff we breathe. Oxygen – O2 – has two ‘O’ atoms and a bond (bridge) connecting them as in, O-O.

Now imagine Harry gets hit by one of Draco Malfoy’s spells and it snaps the bridge of his spectacles. So now he has two single lenses that are no longer bonded to one another. When this happens to oxygen, not due to one of Draco’s spells but to some kind of stress, the two ‘O’s are said to be free radicals.

Once bonded, they are now separate. Instead of being in a relationship, they are single. And they simply hate being single. They’ll do anything to be back in a relationship.

Unfortunately, such is the strength of a free radical’s desire to bond that it will happily covet its neighbour’s wife, so to speak: it will pinch any nearby atom. This isn’t so great for the body, especially if the atom pinched is part of the cells of our skin, or even the cells that line our arteries, or our immune system, or even a brain cell. Once the free radical has taken an atom, these cells can begin to fall apart.

The body has natural ways of dealing with free radicals, though. It uses anti-oxidants. An anti-oxidant is anti (against) oxidation. It is a willing partner for a free radical, thereby eliminating any further damage to cells.

We get anti-oxidants from many fruits and vegetables, salads, teas, olive oil, cinnamon, dark chocolate, and many other foods. It’s one of the reasons why doctors encourage us to eat those foods. We also have natural anti-oxidants in the body.

But when free radicals are produced more abundantly than the body is able to mop them up, that’s when we get oxidation / oxidative stress.

In the skin, it contributes to the formation of wrinkles.

So, what has kindness got to do with it?

It’s probably easier to think of it the other way around. You’ve probably noticed that stress speeds up ageing. This is partly because stress increases free radicals.

On the other hand, kindness generates the hormone, ‘oxytocin’ (see ‘Molecules of Kindness’), which reduces free radicals.

Scientists publishing in the journal, Experimental Dermatology, were studying two types of skin cells: keratinocytes, which make up 90 per cent of the outer layer of skin, and fibroblasts, which are the cells that make collagen.

They found that free radical levels are much lower in both the keratinocytes and the fibroblasts when there’s plenty of oxytocin present, and higher when there’s not much oxytocin present. In other words, oxytocin actively reduces free radicals.

Now, you cannot get oxytocin from your diet. You cannot eat it or drink it. The only way to get oxytocin into your skin is to produce it naturally. And the way to do that is through your behaviour!

Oxytocin production is a side effect of kindness (see ‘The Five Side Effects of Kindness‘). Just as feeling stressed produces stress hormones, the feelings of warmth or connection that accompany acts of kindness generate oxytocin in the body.

This oxytocin reduces free radicals all throughout the body. Not only does it reduce free radicals in skin but studies show it reduces them in the arteries too, producing a ‘cardioprotective’ effect; that is, protecting the heart and arteries.

So, you want to reduce wrinkles? Be kind.

Someone once said to me, “That can’t be right because I am kind and I have wrinkles.”

Of course, being kind doesn’t mean you won’t age. But it does mean that being kind can slow the process down … just as stress speeds it up.

It simply comes down to the feelings that kindness and stress produce because these feelings generate substances in the body.

As I mentioned above, feeling stress generates stress hormones, and they contribute to the production of free radicals.

Feelings of warmth, connection, affection, gratitude – feelings that accompany kindness – generate oxytocin and oxytocin reduces free radicals.

In other words, stress speeds up ageing, kindness slows it down.

So, yes, as unlikely as it might sound on first reading, kindness really can reduce wrinkles.

Want to learn more?

There has been a great deal of recent research into the internal physiological products of being kind and compassionate. I have collated much of this research, including the different ways that kindness impacts cells, the immune system, nervous system, arteries, and brain in my book, ‘The Five Side Effects of Kindness’. Available from all major booksellers. Here’s a few Amazon links.  Audiobook


  1. Vida Green on October 16, 2017 at 12:39 pm

    Think its a bit late for me now David.. but i wont give up quite yet.. 75 is still young “hehe “thank you for your Emails and books, they have really helped me over the years.. and meeting you .. thank you again .

    • David R. Hamilton PhD on October 16, 2017 at 4:52 pm

      Thanks Vida. 75 years young … still plenty of mischief to get up to. 🙂

  2. Mary Llewellyn on October 16, 2017 at 3:30 pm

    Brilliant David I love reading about kindness is good for you. Both of your books on kindness have been read through a couple of times and discussed with my clients as it is a simple and easy attainable goal to go for. In fact David I love all of your books starting out with I heart Me (I love me). Your are a consistent inspiration and that’s why I have included your inspirations in my up and coming book “EFT Constellations” heart-centred processes for Self-Confidence and Healthy independence to be published by Balboa Press USA.

    • David R. Hamilton PhD on October 16, 2017 at 4:53 pm

      Thanks Mary. I’m glad you’ve enjoyed my books and been able to share the info. Good luck with your book!! 🙂

  3. David R. Hamilton PhD on October 16, 2017 at 4:51 pm

    Thanks Ann. Haha – glad I was at least able to contribute something to the beauty world. 🙂

  4. Saima on October 17, 2017 at 8:46 am

    Thank you David, I’ve been doing the Oxytocin Meditation that you guided on one of the Hayhouse webinars. It’s excellent to feel the warmth from your loved ones, even when they are not with you. I conducted the same Medication among a group I teach self development, they felt the benefit too. Thank you for explaining it all so simply.

    • David R. Hamilton PhD on October 20, 2017 at 8:14 am

      I’s so pleased you enjoy the meditation, Saima, and feel the warmth. Great that your group have benefited too. Thanks. 🙂

  5. Robert Marlin on January 4, 2022 at 2:59 pm

    hello i am scientist from academy. be kind is very nice for many thing include ageing. be kind and be young and listen to reggae music. one love.

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